Valentine’s Day is the second most popular holiday to propose, but is this really the right day to propose? Women want their proposal to be special and unforgettable, not cheesy and cliché. Most men think that Valentine’s Day is the perfect day to propose because it’s considered to be the most romantic day of the year, and they’re not wrong. However, if done incorrectly it can go down as the biggest cliché.
Michelle Velazquez, proposal planner, discusses some dos and don’ts for proposing on this holiday:
12 Valentine’s Day Proposal Dos and Don’ts
Proposing on Valentine’s Day can be tricky. On one hand, it is the most romantic day of the year so it can be a good day to pop the question. On the other hand, proposing on a holiday can turn super cheesy if it isn’t done properly. Follow this Valentine’s Day Proposal Guide from a Proposal Planner and your proposal will be a success.
Do think of a way you can surprise her even though a lot of women expect a proposal on Valentine’s Day. Accomplish this by doing something to throw her off. For example, tell her you have a romantic dinner reservation at 7 but instead, right as you are about to leave a huge choir holding candles appears in your front yard and serenades her with your song.
Don’t propose at an expected time. Again, throwing her off is important so the last thing you want to do is to propose over dinner or some other obvious time. Do not have a waiter bring your ring out on a tray or anything predictable. The element of surprise is a must, especially on Valentine’s Day.
Do think about how she would want to look on the day she gets proposed to. Is she the kind of girl that would be disappointed if she were wearing jeans on the big day? If you know your girlfriend would be mortified to have a photographer take a picture of her with no makeup on, make sure she is dolled up for the big moment.
Don’t over-plan. For some reason when men get stressed out, they can overdo things. As a Proposal Planner, I have seen men add too much detail because they just want to make sure it is very special. Keep in mind that you can go overboard. You don’t need singers, dancers, limos, helicopters, flowers, picture frames, guitarists, mariachi bands, jugglers, and more. Just a couple “big” surprises are more than enough and even that is not necessary.
Do think about her personality type when deciding on the proposal idea. Ask yourself if she is the kind of girl who would enjoy a public or a private proposal before you start planning things. If your girlfriend hates to be the center of attention, a public proposal would likely mortify her.
Don’t propose in a creepy way. You should never propose like this but especially not on the day of love. Examples of creepy proposals are faking your own death or scaring her so she can appreciate your heroism later. Proposals should be pleasant, period.
Timing is everything, and you may feel like Valentine’s Day the perfect time to propose. If that’s the case, make sure that you have everything planned – from the way you’re going to propose all the down to the ring you’re going to propose with.
The Knot shares some advice on what you should know before purchasing the ring:
Rules of Engagement Rings
Eight key things to know before you start engagement ring shopping.
Shape Matters Most
Even before those 4 Cs (cut, color, clarity, and carat), you must know what shape your future fiancee loves. Shape indicates the actual geometry of the stone, as opposed to cut, which relates to the angles of the facets in the stone.
Settings Are Second
A quality setting — the metal framework in which your stone is mounted — can set the tone for a ring. A classic round engagement ring stone gets a fresh and modern makeover in a bezel setting. A trendy oval can look more traditional in a four-prong setting. Getting the right combo of shape and setting is key.
Spy on Her Style
The trend these days is for couples to ring-shop together, but if you’re more of a traditionalist and looking to surprise her with a ring she’ll love, be sure to do some reconnaissance. You can ask her best friend or sibling for help — and swear them to secrecy. But if you’re set on not telling anyone, pay attention to the jewelry she wears. Is she more of a platinum/silver girl than a yellow-gold one? Does she gravitate to vintage jewels as opposed to simple, classic pieces? Watch her for a couple of weeks and take mental notes to size up her style.
Consider the Metal
When it comes to the band, you’ve got a variety of metals to choose from. One popular choice is platinum — it’s extremely durable and especially pure, making it a great hypoallergenic choice for brides and grooms with sensitive skin. There’s also gold, which comes in a variety colors, including white, yellow, rose, and even green. Beyond platinum and gold, you might also consider palladium (which has a grayer hue than platinum) or even a recycled metal band, which might include a mixture of platinum and gold. Think of it as a “something old” and “something new” all rolled into one.
If you decide that Valentine’s Day is going to be the day you ask the woman you love to spend the rest of her life with you, make sure that you make it so special she’ll remember it for years to come.